Infatuated or really in love?!?

INFATUATION	LOVE
instant - blooms quickly	takes root slowly and grows in time
stimulating and thrilling (you feel feverish excitement when your partner is near you) but also uncertain and insecure (you feel miserable when he/she is far)	brings security - the warmth when the partner is near does not diminish when he/she is far you want him/her near but you are still near when he/she is far
makes you lose your appetite; you can't concentrate, can't keep your mind on your work; you get short-tempered and unpleasant with your family	you are sensible about your diet; you work harder because you want to excel for your loved one; you're happy and sure and this makes you positive with everyone
wants you to get married right away - you can't wait because you can't lose him/her	you can wait even if you prefer to marry at once; you plan your future with complete confidence
stems from a desire for self-gratification - the partner fulfills an urgent need in your life	is born out of deep concern for the welfare of the beloved; outside criticism does not dull your attachment - it sharpens it; misfortune strengthens the bond of love
largely a matter of sex - relationship almost always wants to end up in physical intimacy.	sex is also a natural and spontaneous part (but only a part) of love – you can nave fun together even without landing up in bed
infatuated couples usually find it easy to disagree	when you're in love you are ready to accept differences
sparks off thoughts of jealousy and lack of trust – when he/she is away you wonder whether he/she is with another	understands that there is perfect trust in a relationship – all others with whom the beloved laughs are outside the sacredness of this relationship
you can 'fall' into an infatuation; infatuation may lead you to do things you normally would not approve of; infatuation says "I love you far what you give me when I am with you".	you cannot "fall" in love; love always makes you a better person than you were before; love says "I love you not only for what you are but for what l am when l am with you”